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My son Elijah's teacher recently announced that his preschool class would be having a competition to see whose dad is the coolest. I immediately knew that I would win. After all, I am very hip owing to the fact that I know a lot about music, but I'm also very self-deprecating so I didn't want to make a big deal of the fact that I knew I would win. Two other dads were in the running: Dan Zanes and David Byrne, somehow. I was still going to win, but I needed to come up with a campaign strategy. I asked my wife for her thoughts.
"Baby, help me figure out how to assert my still with it-ness to a bunch of small children?" I said.
"I can't believe I married you. What the hell was I thinking?" my wife, Regina, joked. She's a kidder. Did I mention that I have a wife? My wife my wife my wife. We have a child, Elijah! Anyway.
"Maybe you could do something besides just sit around the house playing computer baseball," she mentioned.
By gum, she was right.
So I spent the next few hours procrastinating while I hatched my plan. I was going to show Elijah and his classmates that I was the coolest, yet most real and modest, dad they could ever imagine.
By the time I got home, I had an hour and 25 minutes to prepare for the Coolness Competition. I stumbled through a CD collection that has become more and more fossilized and scattered every week since the advent of the iPod era. I have an iPod, like the kids do! But among the broken jewel cases and the burned collections of Beck B-sides, I didn't find hard evidence of my coolness that I could be totally certain would make me seem awesome and rockin'. I mean, besides the burned collections of Beck B-sides. It's pretty hip that I have those, right? Hip and edgy. I barely had time to shower, shave, check my e-mail and play two games of computer baseball before I was almost running out of time. (See how I subverted my wife's authority? Wife wife wife.)
Anyway I decided at the last minute to make a collage about me. Kids are visual learners, and I figured I could find plenty of stuff just lying around that would make statements about my identity. I glanced down at my faded Sonic Youth t-shirt stretched tight over my not-quite-noticeable gut. Experimentally, I lifted its hem, so that the lower part of my stomach became visible. I noted that it was pretty hairy! Undeterred, I continued to look for material for my collage. Tentatively at first, and then with increasing firmness, I plunged my right index finger into my belly button and made a scraping motion.
My first try was fruitful: some grayish lint and what seemed like a possible cat hair. How'd that get in there? The cat hair, I mean. The grayish lint was probably from the faded Beavis and Butthead tee I was wearing yesterday. I took some scotch tape and attached both items to the posterboard. I was on my way.
My next scrape proved less worthwhile. I didn't even know what I was digging for at this point, to be honest. My finger emerged with just a fleck of dead skin and another little piece of lint, blueish this time. Still, it would have to be enough. What am I talking about? It would be awesome. After all, everything that comes out of me is worth noting. And everything that comes out of my kid? Well, doubly so. Duh.
"So," I asked Elijah. "What do you think of my collage?"
"I like to play the game with trucks," he replied.
"What's your favorite thing about it?" I asked, encouraged.
"What collage?" said my son. It was the most profound thing either of us had said since the last time we'd spoken aloud.
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