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    Image of Wrapitup Wrapitup
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    Is this guy's ad that douchey? He seems like every other shy and smart person who's lonely and trying to get a companion. He sounds like he's just trying to talk himself up while simultaneously trying to come off as humble and down to earth. Like everyone on CL. Cliche-ridden and all, I like his ad. What he said about adoption and being okay with becoming a stepdad sounds sweet. I hope the poor guy never finds out that his ad got on Gawker.


    I do question his indirect put-down of effeminate guys altho' it's possible that he was just being very direct about his preferences and was not intending to insult femmy guys.

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    Image of homoviper homoviper
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    "I'm masculine."


    Translation: I'm full of self-loathing about my homosexuality, and while I fancy myself a straight appearing guy's guy, I actually lisp like the queeniest bees in the hive.


    NEXT.

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    Image of jimstoic jimstoic
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    I'd reply to that ad if I weren't in a relationship and 3000 miles away.
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    Image of Wrapitup Wrapitup
    12/26/08

    @jimstoic: Seems like a nice enough guy, doesn't he?
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/27/08

    @Wrapitup: He should, yes, but there's something off-putting about the ad itself. Much like jimstoic, were i single and in NYC (3k miles away, too--it'd be odd if we were neighbors), i'd think about writing. All the pieces are there, but there's something about that ad that makes me cringe, and i can't put my finger on it.
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    Image of Understater Understater
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    Burr, it's cold in here.
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    Image of surfacenoise76 surfacenoise76
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    "European-American"? Oh brother.
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @surfacenoise76: It has so much more cachet than "honky."
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    Image of iplaudius iplaudius
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    Gawker 3.0: same ad hominem humiliation, now 50% more constructive!
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @iplaudius: I dunno know. 50% seems kind of high.


    And how humiliating must it be to find your personal ad being dissected, deconstructed, and abused online? Because you know someone's told him.

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    Image of Takes One to Know One Takes One to Know One
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    I'm very important. I have many leather-bound books and my apartment smells of rich mahogany.
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    Image of bigleggedwoman bigleggedwoman
    12/26/08

    @frobisher: I'm kind of a big deal, myself.
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    Image of QueenAlice QueenAlice
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    Seriously, though...a PERFUME CRITIC? I mean, that's what he does? Aren't there customer reviews on sephora.com that sort of handle that niche of reporting?
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    Image of Trollopean Tubes Trollopean Tubes
    12/26/08

    @QueenAlice: Yes, it's a niche, but a heck of a lot of artistry goes into some (repeat: SOME) of the perfumes out there, and the amount of money perfume generates is astounding (it's what keeps most couture houses afloat).


    Perfume criticism is at least as serious as fashion or wine criticism, which, granted, may not be saying much, but at least it has company in the realm of the frou-frou. And some of the writing is pretty damn good; Chandler Burr's not bad (his depressing ad notwithstanding), and Luca Turin and Tania Sanchez (look 'em up) are fantastic.

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    Image of bigleggedwoman bigleggedwoman
    12/26/08

    @Trollopean Tubes: I never knew this - interesting, esp. the part about the perfume revenue supporting the couture house. That kind of explains a lot!
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    Image of macbeach macbeach
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    I plead ignorance:


    "I'd like to have kids, probably by adoption"


    Is there some new medical miracle in the works?

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    Image of Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me
    12/26/08

    @macbeach: Surrogate mother?
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    Image of macbeach macbeach
    12/26/08

    @Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me: Maybe that was the alternative being alluded to. Although I thought that legally it still involves adoption.
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    Image of fractal_elves fractal_elves
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    He's Chandler Burr from NYT. Poor thang.
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    Image of Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me
    12/26/08

    @fractal_elves: The perfume critic!
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    Image of robmorsexxx robmorsexxx
    12/26/08

    @Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me: His ad smells like Raid!
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    Image of Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me
    12/26/08

    @robmorsexxx: Chanel No. 2
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    Image of bigleggedwoman bigleggedwoman
    12/26/08

    @Crustaceans Rarely Get Past Me: ah-HAhahaha!
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    Image of LasVegasPhil LasVegasPhil
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    I'm going in!
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @LasVegasPhil: That's actually a very good idea. Most of the readership is in NYC, right? Surely someone would be willing to take one for the team and then report back? I'd volunteer, but i'm on the Left Coast. Maybe we could set-up a PayPal account to help with expenses, like therapy afterward.
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    Image of QueenAlice QueenAlice
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    I'm always creeped out when people use those Sears Portrait Studio/yearbook/'from the back of my novel' pictures in their ads. I don't know why, it just makes people come off as trying very hard to be omgsincerez I guess. Throw up some crappy candids from your best friend's stag party like everyone else already!


    That said, he looks like my dad's accountant, Albert.

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    Image of robmorsexxx robmorsexxx
    12/26/08

    @QueenAlice: Too true, although I will give him credit for the fact that he isn't using a pic where he is turning his head quite a ways towards the camera in order to make it look like he has a discernable jawline. Or standing behind a large piece of furniture with only his head and shoulders visible, or any of the other photo tricks guys use to make themselves look halfway decent. That being said, this is not the pic to use to attract someone who would share one's life. A more casual pic, maybe in something a little body-conscious (sex is a part of all this) and a freaking SMILE!
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    Image of QueenAlice QueenAlice
    12/26/08

    @robmorsexxx: I don't mean to come off as rude, since I don't know this person - but his ad does NOT in any way scream 'sex' to me. It doesn't even lightly hint at sex. What it says to me is "Uptight writer with desperately adolescent quirks in language seeking hand holding, cheek stroking beta-male to put up with my tantrums about my hair loss and shop for checkered shirts." Then again I'm not a gay man.
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    Image of robmorsexxx robmorsexxx
    12/26/08

    @QueenAlice: LOL very good points and quite true, but since he is gay man, sex enters into everything. It just does.


    I'm wondering that if he does indeed find that guy with all those admirable traits, will that guy be willing to tolerate the ad author's quirks. My gut tells me no-when someone goes looking for and only accepts perfection, well, perfection has a nasty habit of not returning the feeling.


    Honestly, from my experience, It hink this guy is chasing his tail. I wish him luck-I wish everyone luck in finding love-but I just don't see it playing out like he wants.

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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @robmorsexxx: uh...if he could catch his tail in his mouth, why would be be posting singles adverts?
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    Image of Choire Choire
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    He's a very, VERY nice guy, despite that he used "solid" twice in this ad. Very smart, very sweet. So... there being only so many homosexuals in New York City, I was of course once set up on a blind date with him. (And therefore I will keep this item blind as well.) This was, oh, early 2008? Late 2007? And so I called him. He grilled me. And then--AND THEN! After quite the interrogation, he told me he'd gone on a date with a guy like two days before--gone on ONE DATE with a guy--and therefore was unavailable for dating anyone else. It was like an episode of Sex and the City. Like, I'm being pre-rejected by someone who clearly has a radically unusual, or at least wildly different, set of standards and understandings of the world? It was one of those moments where you hang up the phone and think: should I just get myself castrated? Or is it time to move to Nebraska already? (But as Sex and the City always reminds us, it is always darkest before the dawn....)


    In any event, I wish him the best in his apparently on-going search for love.

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    Image of Baroness Baroness
    12/26/08

    @Choire: It's Thomas Friedman, isn't it? A shonda, his lying about his age like that. Oh, and the wife and kids bit. And I'm sure you're a catch, Choire.

    Don't go Nebraskan 'cos ass is there for the askin'.
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @Choire: Set up with him, huh? So much for my suggestion he do what the rest of us do when we're not just looking to score, and that's rely on the judgment of friends. Maybe you offended this person somehow, and hence the set-up?
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    Image of Seeräuber Jenny Seeräuber Jenny
    12/26/08

    @Choire:


    He just wasn't into you (even before meeting you).


    Choire-rhymes-with-story,


    It was very gentlemanly of you not to ID him, even though now it's moot. Strain that it is, I'd like to believe that decent behavior gets repaid every once in a long while.


    Happy Holidays.


    S.J.

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    Image of Buenavista Buenavista
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    Why even bother to tell that passport story?
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @Buenavista: It's like sending postcards when you're on vacay (Look at me! I have the time and resources to travel! Suck it, bitch!). It's a way of bragging without really bragging, unless you pay even the slightest attention to details, in which case it's just tiresome.
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    In reply to Craigslist's Lonely Media Gay Revealed: NYT Perfume Critic
    If he's had great luck meeting serious guys, why's he still trying?


    And it's a good thing CL doesn't charge by the word, especially the trite and hackneyed variety.

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    Image of robmorsexxx robmorsexxx
    12/26/08

    @Hydroceph: His ad is a bit of an erection-killer, isn't it?
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    Image of flossy flossy
    12/26/08

    @Hydroceph: It's a typo, what he meant was "I've had great luck meeting guys who are serious about having anonymous sex in Hell's Kitchen in the next 30 minutes."
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    Image of Hydroceph Hydroceph
    12/26/08

    @robmorsexxx: Isn't it? I mean, he should be ringing my bell with those details, but gawd, I just wish he's go away, far away, maybe to one of those 60 or so countries he's visited.
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