Being the child of famous, successful, well-adjusted people may well be awesome, but being part of a messed-up family that's constantly being scrutinized and criticized just adds a loud chorus of insults to injury.
Poor girl, I am sure she will get the help she needs now. She may have acted like all was ok with her and its not like her parents aren't self-observed and may have not noticed her calls for help. No matter what the circumstances are, thank goodness she did not succeed.
Making this even more depressing is that St. Vincent's is such a dump and it's a rainy night in New York. Poor kid. And (my two cents) she's way better looking than her Barbie-fied mom & her dad's Stepfordized, former Top Chef crumpet ex-wife.
@GlasgowRose: Yeah, in my suicide notes, I always leave directions on which hospital I want to be rushed to. No fucking way would I want my life to be saved at some dump like St. Vincents.
I actually always kind of admired Alexa. Sure, she had doors opened to her because of her dad, but she wasn't an attention- or fame-whore, you didn't see her being carried out of clubs at 3 a.m., or getting DUI's.
I (ugh) remember when she was born, and thinking "poor kid, what girl would want perfect blonde Christie Brinkley as their mom?" Suspect she was in the middle for their divorce; was her mom's (and likely dad's) ear in their respective relationships; and - if she's suffering "years" after a breakup - clearly needed some space and therapy - and (maybe) some more healthy attention from her folks.
When you have two egomaniacs for parents, no matter how rich and famous, life can be pretty hard. And egomaniacs, aka empty narcissists, often run after fame.
I really don't think there's any aspect of this tragedy that's connected with being the child of celebrities. Even obscure people's kids have terrible breakups, unstable family backgrounds, and an inherited tendency towards depression.
@raincoaster: But most of us don't spend our young lives being compared to our mother, and not favorably. That has to take its toll. She's a gorgeous young woman in a 1945 Vargas girl way. She'll be beautiful decades after her own mother's beauty required Botox and facelifts.
I know having wealthy parents isn't everything, but since I'm a temp employee who can be laid off at any moment and I have no medical insurance, I'm having a hard time understanding her distress. My lenses are very tinted right now.
It's all a matter of perspective. It's easy making judgments from an outside standpoint. I understand what you're saying, but having a certain status, certain parents, and a certain amount of wealth does not automatically mean happiness. Sure, us "commoners" have it hard...but despite all of our struggles and obstacles, we still find something that keeps us carrying forward.
Many celebrities, I think, attain what they believe will make them happy (or are born into a world where they have everything they could ever hope for) and then realize that even despite all that they possess, they are still empty inside.
@Island of Misfit Toys: well we all operate from different perspectives and have wildly differing thresholds. No one should be ever feel compelled to take their own life, or even do it accidentally. The saying is " shit happens" not "temping happens" or "diabetes happens" or "rich celebrity parents happens." Her shit, and your shit are completely different. There no need to start a pity party cause someone who appears to have it "better" than you does something drastic.
@Island of Misfit Toys: but while I'm at it, the number of temp hires really grew this month, which is supposed to mean that more permanent hires are just around the corner. I hope you get out of employment purgatory soon.
@Island of Misfit Toys: I don't think being born to rich parents means you should always have to put a smiling face when you have a painful breakup and your closest family members are making decisions about their relationships that are probably upsetting for a variety of reasons. I think she deserves some sympathy. Perspective is hard for anyone when emotional pain gets to be too much.
@Island of Misfit Toys: Everyone has shit going on in their lives. I wouldn't want to wish the urge to kill yourself on anyone, rich, poor, famous, or not. It's a terrible place to be, no matter who you are.
Besides, wealth doesn't automatically bring happiness and contentment. I'm not sure how that relates to her mental state.
@all: I think the point is you don't have to have shit going on to be depressed. Sometimes depression isn't caused by anything but genetics. It's unfair to judge someone for being depressed, because they haven't "earned it."
@Island of Misfit Toys: I believe this phenom is addressed in shrink circles by the "Kessler 10 scale of psychological distress." It's a self-reported measure meant to quantify psychological distress--employed in numerous studies affirming that emotional suffering is entirely subjective.
In other words, you could be an heiress who just lost one of her 10 beloved chihuahuas, and suffer just as intensely as an orphaned Sudanese kid who lost all her relatives to civil war and has gone hungry and terrified for weeks in the jungle while trying to flee on foot.
Part of being a more or less correctly adjusted individual is the ability to (eventually) place catastrophic events that befall you in a healthy perspective, but if you're already suffering from chronic depression or some other such ailments, your brain is chemically unable to perform that task.
@ystrdysnews: Meds if the depression is chronic (ie, a chemical imbalance in the brain), augmented by therapy + pursuit of hobbies you feel passionate about. That triple-pronged solution pulls you out to a safe shore.
@Island of Misfit Toys: Depression does not choose a target based on social standing. If you are clinically depressed, you are clinically depressed. And no amount of money or fame will help that. I have been broke, and I have had money. Neither mattered when I wanted to kill myself. Affording the shrink or going to a free clinic did not matter when I wanted to kill myself. I am having a hard time understanding YOUR narrow mindedness. You can't categorize life's problems based on how much money you have in the bank. How shallow and silly.
@cellardoor: Agreed. One of my best friends killed himself and he had everything going for him -- handsome, trust fund, smart as heck, Ivy league, women loved him, friends, etc, etc. None of it mattered. His parents and friends are still left behind.
I think whatever pain he felt (that he hid very well) was so intense, he just did not want to be here anymore. So all the judgements we place on being "happy" or "sad" is almost beside the point. He was in a place few of us can imagine.
@Bunsy: In addition, when you're depressed you isolate. You consider yourself a burden to family and friends and purposely don't share what you're going through -- it's part of why you feel so shitty. Once you make the decision to kill yourself, you get a little clarity, and everyone thinks you're doing better, but, really, it's just that you have a plan. (Meds and therapy combined pulled me back from the brink. Twice.)
If indeed a "rough breakup" led her to OD on pills, then a prophetic comment to People in Nov. '08: "You can be beautiful and powerful without a man. I won't lie. I'm working on that."
@AzureTexan: That's nothing. I bought a Rutherford B. Hayes bubbler that works like a charm. I assume its from the same set, though? "Lame Presidents" smoking paraphernalia.
@Kosar Söze: Umm....I live in Vancouver and know a glassblower who will happily take custom orders, in case any of you want to realize your twisted bong dreams. just sayin'
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I (ugh) remember when she was born, and thinking "poor kid, what girl would want perfect blonde Christie Brinkley as their mom?" Suspect she was in the middle for their divorce; was her mom's (and likely dad's) ear in their respective relationships; and - if she's suffering "years" after a breakup - clearly needed some space and therapy - and (maybe) some more healthy attention from her folks.
good luck, Alexa. There is much to live for.
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It's all a matter of perspective. It's easy making judgments from an outside standpoint. I understand what you're saying, but having a certain status, certain parents, and a certain amount of wealth does not automatically mean happiness. Sure, us "commoners" have it hard...but despite all of our struggles and obstacles, we still find something that keeps us carrying forward.
Many celebrities, I think, attain what they believe will make them happy (or are born into a world where they have everything they could ever hope for) and then realize that even despite all that they possess, they are still empty inside.
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Besides, wealth doesn't automatically bring happiness and contentment. I'm not sure how that relates to her mental state.
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In other words, you could be an heiress who just lost one of her 10 beloved chihuahuas, and suffer just as intensely as an orphaned Sudanese kid who lost all her relatives to civil war and has gone hungry and terrified for weeks in the jungle while trying to flee on foot.
Part of being a more or less correctly adjusted individual is the ability to (eventually) place catastrophic events that befall you in a healthy perspective, but if you're already suffering from chronic depression or some other such ailments, your brain is chemically unable to perform that task.
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Excercise should be at the top of the list.
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But thanks for diminishing her demons.
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I think whatever pain he felt (that he hid very well) was so intense, he just did not want to be here anymore. So all the judgements we place on being "happy" or "sad" is almost beside the point. He was in a place few of us can imagine.
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