What have we learned from Paula Deen, really? The TV chef and animal-fats enthusiast has paid a certain price for the revelations, following from a harassment lawsuit, that she had used the word "nigger" in the past, and that she had allegedly envisioned a slavery-influenced Southern plantation wedding for her brother…

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[Actress Eva Longoria Parker, wearing a ham costume, hosts the MTV European Music Awards in Spain. Photo via AP.]

The Way We Live Now: Bartering. And gambling. Bartering and gambling. We've regressed.