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Conchie Birdie
10/20/09

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Bet Randi's a little jelski that the 'book doesn't have their own airfield like goog. Oh well... maybe when they get, um, fb maps? That would be weird. One can only imagine what kinda stalker things that would bring. #wereadtwittersoyoudonthaveto
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random_play
10/19/09

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So it turns out those lap dance pics are from the Yahoo Taiwan Hack Day. And here's the sudden, but inevitable apology. Seems like it was a tradition, up until now. This is either an outrage, or par for the course, depending on which ranting hacker you believe. #wereadtwittersoyoudonthaveto
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random_play
10/19/09

@random_play: Also more hackgirl pics, thanks to Flickr. #wereadtwittersoyoudonthaveto
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HypocriticalOath
09/25/09

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Call me crazy but when I was 22, I kind of looked at guys who were twice my age who tried to pursue me and always asked myself the same question "Why can't they (or why don't they want to) date women around their own age?" Judge me as you will but I still feel like 22 is very young and you don't know the world, so why would you intentionally get involved with someone who had that much of an advantage over you (who could have an easier time manipulating you and your young, naive little heart)?
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Pope John Peeps II
09/25/09

@HypocriticalOath: They always say women mature faster than men. But mid-20s women like Wakeman seem to go through what mid teens men do when they lust after their friends' older sisters, or moms, or whatever. Domineering "teacher" figures. The funny part is that women always rationalize it ("he's so mature. he's so supportive and stable") while teenage boys just go right at it honestly ("She's hot, and I bet she knows exactly what to do in bed").
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limedcoconut
09/25/09

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This girl sounds like a total tool. If you're fucking your superior at work, you should know the score, having romantic fantasies about whats going on and being able to write yourself into the part of the 'victim' doesn't make it so.

Really all she did was make girls in a professional situation seem sappy and weak. Good job. Wakeman.
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BoKnowsMagic
09/25/09

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She wasn't using him for what she wanted? They aren't married, the relationship didn't "work out," and so he's the sole "user" here?
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hilikusopus
09/25/09

@Bulkington: Agreed. And let's be serious, she was not in love with him, and she did not love him. She was infatuated with him. Probably, the more he pulled away emotionally, the more "in love" (desperate) she became. A year later she finds out he's engaged, chooses to have lunch with him, he talks about being in love, marriage, and kids, and she's disappointed, never wants to see him again. I guarantee that, despite his engagement, if he intimated that he was open to having an affair, that she would have loved to get involved again. This was an unhealthy interaction. I will say though, although she was a young adult, as a 37yo he should have known better than to get involved with his 22yo intern.
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Martiniman
09/25/09

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When you are 22 and right out of school, everybody in the workforce is older. Sounds like they both missed a few signposts in the Twilight Zone which should have said this wasn't working. Oh, and flings in the magazine business have been happening since they invented 4-color spreads.
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If_I_Had_a_Poodle
09/25/09

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too many sexy secretay sitcoms and movies

too much bad tv

getting involved with someone decades older who is your boss: usually ends badly
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Conchie Birdie
09/25/09

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Oh, and PS - He wouldn't be 'proud' of her accomplishments, he wouldn't give a shit. We're not living in a romantic comedy here, darling.
Sorry, I know it sounds incredibly snarky, but I am around the same age and that's how it goes...

And the last paragraphs on her post life were a little cliche, if you ask me. It kinda sounds like exactly what a former, still-not-getting-it, 35 year old friend of mine who has become absolutely insane about guys. Sad.

I might just go ahead and call this all on account of daddy issues. Lord knows there are so many coming from Connecticut.
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The Lone Scout
09/25/09

@Conchie Birdie: Kindly forward those resumes to me. Signed, Daddy
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Conchie Birdie
09/25/09

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Wow, who hasn't gone through something like this? The whole "Older Man" thing is just way too played out - and, in the end, it could've been the "Younger Man" or even the "Man-my-Age Man".
I was expecting something a little more exciting...
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Paul_Is_Drunk
09/25/09

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This 'advice' sounds like how not to keep boning your interns. Hmmm... it's almost like that word I hear sometimes. Ira... iro... irobic? No, give me a second...
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Uncle_Billy_Slumming
09/24/09

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Hotdog Spader and the Gyllenhallway.
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misslinda
09/24/09

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True story, I married my intern. So suck it, Gawker!
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Magister
09/25/09

@misslinda: Could you flip her advice around, as some type of public service?
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bess marvin, girl detective
09/24/09

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drag your clit across your paycheck, you're bound to get cut
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moodyonceamonth
09/24/09

@bess marvin, girl detective: absolutely the best thing I have read all day.
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son of spam
09/24/09

@bess marvin, girl detective: Prove it.
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random_play
09/24/09

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In completely unrelated news, Spirit reports that "Young Career Woman As Whore" is their best selling halloween costume this year.
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AlexSea
09/24/09

@random_play: So they found a good use for the leftover sarah palin costumes?
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pufflehuff
09/25/09

@AlexSea: Oh so much promotion for this little thread (why yes, I do still have my Say-Pay costume from last year hanging about...).
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once
09/24/09

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Ever notice how some of the most ardent feminists are really not ones?
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Schadenfrau
09/24/09

@once: It's called the Bust Effect, where the world of feminism consists of Hello Kitty, leopard print, and the area at and below your own navel.
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$Image of Terrafractal$ Terrafractal
09/24/09

@once: Having a workplace relationship sets feminism back?

She fell for a guy she happened to work with, got caught up in the haze of her (22-year old's) infatuation, and was dumped.

What she did not do was casually fuck her way to a job or preferential treatment. There's a difference.
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moosesanddeers
09/24/09

@once: Oh, please! Having sex with a boss does not negate one's feminism. It might negate a person's claim to wise decision making, but not to feminism.
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SpyMagician
09/24/09

@once: Ever notice how power structures in some industries force gender divisions between men and women that would be frowned upon if explicitly stated, but are still in place because some issues have actually not been resolved in power structures that give some no choice but to play into the hands of the paradigm that exists so they can hope to climb to another level and hopefully be on better footing.

Now come over here and water my plants, dear.
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once
09/24/09

@Terrafractal: She didn't simply have a workplace relationship w/ just anyone in the office (many people meet that way) but slept w/ her boss. I can see falling for your boss if you've worked closely w/ the person for a long time. Interns are short-term employees. In this case, she was attracted to him---most people draw the line here for awhile as new employees---but then they fucked. And then she 'fell in love' if we are to take her word for it. Oh and she says, "no strings were pulled." Bullshit. Her position, same company - different department, sounds perfectly strategic. Good grief. What if you were an intern that summer & then didn't get the job? What if your boss flirted w/ you, but you weren't attracted, & so you didn't get the job etc? It sets a bar for other women and I don't like it. I've seen it happen too many times not to feel pissed off. But, yes, I should withdraw my use of feminist - it doesn't belong to one type of woman.
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once
09/24/09

@SpyMagician: Yes, media. I quit in my late 20s. (I don't want to be more specific since I figured out the identity of a commenter by details)
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Pope John Peeps II
09/25/09

@once: See your problem is that you're a somebody. If you were a nobody like me, you could give away all sorts of details and nobody would ever be able to know who you are.

On the downside, your mother would be ashamed of you in an unspoken way, for your lack of success..... so y'know.... plusses and minuses.
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once
09/25/09

@Pope John Peeps II: No, I'm not. But I could'a been a contenda' had I slept w/ my boss. True story: the woman who got the job, that many people said was mine, was shagging the boss. In media, people tend to fall for their superiors, coincidentally, when their career needs a critical jump start. Flash forward 5 years, the affair is ancient history, & they're exactly where they should be. Ok, I thought I dealt w/ this in therapy but I need another session.
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