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New York, 12:04 PM
Tue Dec 1
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11:43 AM
1) PE along with art and music is almost always the first thing to be cut. There are schools with good sports teams yet have no general PE due to budget cuts.
2) Processed foods. Both at home and likely in the Cafeteria. With the cost of food prep skyrocketing, almost all districts use some form of a food service group and likely its bided out so the CHEAPEST group gets the bid. Well its cheap for a reason people.
3) Parental fear mongering. Parents are WAY too fearful of everything. Basically pussyfying their children. Kids dont go outside, are not forced to be active, and sit in front of the boob tube all day. Both the medical field AND the media are as much to blame for this one.
3a) I would also include general lazy parenting to this too. Easier to watch their kids pay their 360 than to look out a window.
4) There is NO demand to be in shape. Being overweight is acceptable. Mind you the twist to this one is being FAT still isnt.
And for the US the biggest factor I think in all of this is the fact that schools are given all the responsibilities of being the parent, yet have absolutely no authority or respect in BEING THE PARENT. God forbid you tell little Johnny he needs to loose the weight, the parents would have their lawyers ramming down the door with their briefcases.
Back when I went to school which given my 10 year was this past Sat, wasnt too long ago, our teachers told it like it was. My gym teacher had EXPLICIT permission from my parents to KICK MY ASS if I got out of line. And you bet your ass he did.
12:02 PM
The only kids who burned calories in PE were the kids who were going to play intramural sports and beat up more kids after school anyway.
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If kids are active and running around, they burn pizza and fries right off. If they are sitting around on computers and video games, then that's also a problem.
11:33 AM
When I was in high-school, I was really bookish and inactive. Forced P.E. was TORTURE for me because I didn't have much stamina and had no hand-eye coordination. Far from instilling a healthy appreciation of physical fitness, gym classes just made me hate all forms of exercise. It wasn't until I got to university and independently discovered something that I liked (triathlons) that I became more athletic. I think if we're going to force kids to be active in school, then the calisthenics and team sports of mandatory P.E. aren't the answer.
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Their only defense? The shit-farm we call a culture here in the United States. What are these kids nursed on when it comes to cultural values, so that no matter what good-faith effort a beleaguered parent makes, they are riding into a stiff headwind? Reality TV, Extreme Anything, and the blind hope that some day you may get to make a sex tape that is bought by TMZ. The American Dream has become a national nocturnal emission, replete with a cold and scuzzy residue that no amount of turning away will relieve.
Or not.
11/25/09
I would consider that statement extremely hard to substantiate -- what parent is going to admit to it? Thus you're left with what you've observed about parenting...95% of which takes place behind closed doors.
So your statement probably has meaning only to the extent that you've shared living quarters with a large and representative sample of families. And if that's really what you're claiming you've done, then I'm quite interested to know more details.
11/25/09
There are too many tentacles to this octopus to go into here. The fact that a parent can't or won't admit what I observe of their behavior doesn't absolve them of it. And you may claim that the fact that I observe this behavior in them doesn't necessarily make it so, either, but I have one thing you don't--stark circumstantial evidence that nobody's home, literally and figuratively, these days when it comes to performing the tasks that a parent is charged with.
Things like disciplining a child, socializing them, helping them understand that when they are out in public, there is a different standard of conduct they are held to, because, guess what? Society requires it. And when that standard isn't met, society is diminished. It literally unravels.
Maybe you don't see any of the signs I am referring to. Then again, maybe you live on another planet and ride a unicorn. But because you doubt me, next time you're out and about, look around for a family that functions as it should: one where the members are loving, respectful, engaged by each other, and act like members of a group that recognizes itself by the way they act. Then maintain that vigil, and see how long it is between the time you saw the first group that met that standard and the time you noticed the second one.
Best of luck.
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Everybody except Basket is over 13 in the works of Gertrude Stein.
No, not a spelling error.
11/24/09
But I digress...
I do appreciate what has to be the most literate response to something I have ever said here at Gawker. Truth to tell, you have now shamed me into going back to get my PhD, which will no doubt enable me to comprehend the full scope of your insights.
Gracie mille!
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11/24/09
If you want to be a part of your daughter's life, then actually make a sacrifice to be closer to her.
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Sorry, but no. She's just a whiny, spoiled little bitch.
Do you really think that 13 year old girls are incapable of showing respect to their parents or acting like decent human beings? I was never like this, nor were any of my close friends at that age, nor was my sister.
I think the real problem here is that we, as a society, raise a bunch of pouty, self-indulgent little beasts and then give them a pass because "they're just kids."
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It's really not uncommon for girls that age to reject dad's love and/or friendship, and I'd imagine it'd be particularly hard for the girl to care what he's saying when he's not around at all. I'm betting in her 13 year old, un-nuanced mind, she thinks "really? you want to pretend you care about me, but I only see you 4 times a year? Back off jerk."
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But even as a 13YO, I understood that my parents were my parents, and they loved me, and that there were certain things that once said could not be unsaid. I don't have the healthiest relationship with my parents today, but I still understand those things which I feel like is the thing that keeps me able to look past their flaws.
I mean, I'm so over some of the attitudes girls/women are told are okay to have towards men from such a young age. If it's not "my father was never a real father!" than it's "my father wanted me to be his little girl forever!" I know when you're a 13YO girl, men seem like another species who have languages and agendas and ways that are foreign...that's why it's important to try to build a relationship with the one man who doesn't have a fucking agenda. Where does she get off (in her little ignorant and immature way) questioning her father's masculinity? Cause that's what the "that's gay" stuff is about, right- "you're not a man!" Fuck that. Like she would know the first thing about losing your home and marriage and half your paycheck to people who may never love you ever again.
I know some parents suck and I don't think people should just sweep that under the rug, but I feel like this whole teen-adult generation has this attitude like, it's parents jobs to ensure that they make their kids happy enough to not want to cut them off when they're 21. Like, almost every other person I know is estranged from one of their parents. And I wonder how these people would feel when they're 45 and parents themselves and want to connect their kids to grandma and grandpa, and Papa was like, "eh, no thanks..."
11/24/09
That's not to say she'll never outgrow it, or that this particular case doesn't have some extenuating circumstances we don't know about...I just think that our society is generally to accepting of inconsiderate, disrespectful and selfish behavior from children (who then turn into inconsiderate, disrespectful and selfish adults - or at least, they often do).
11/24/09
2 weeks + 3 weekends + living several hours away [not =] regularly seeing them. There are clearly some issues in this family we're not aware of and it's too easy to assume it's all her fault.
Can he see them more often, thus reducing the need for this long distance relationship? Can the parents sit down with her together and talk this out--and listen to her? Bring in a neutral party like a family counselor? Does he understand that some teens do not appreciate parents showing up in their social/communication space, that they seem pathetic when they think they are hip?
The fact is she's 13 and dealing with divorce. Why does the responsibility to being the adult fall to her?
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He has to drive to see his damn kid. Boo hoo. And when she refuses to blow bubbles at him and allow him to treat her poorly, he takes to the internet to whine about it. Publicly.
Stand up fellow the dad is, all right.
Tween daughter should be tonguelashed for resorting to calling her father ghey because not only is it disgusting to use ghey as an epithet but it's mind-numbingly uncreative. Father needs to be slapped upside the head with a sock full of common sense and stop acting like the phucking child in that relationship.
Damn - parenting isn't an easy job but people have a way of making it a lot harder than it has to be.
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