Lost in some other thread were my thoughts. I am saying this for some other Gawkers who know: If you could choose to be that way and end that way, would you? Of course not.
Hope all the "you have a choice" people have perfect lives. Good luck.
@PikaDar Brisetout: That was very well-said, and all the more poignant because so many of us are or have been (or are close to people who are) in this situation.
ETA: Now that I think about it, I like this comment as much as any I've read in my years on Gawker. Thank you.
@PikaDar Brisetout: I get your drift--don't throw stones from a glass house--but I would sincerely like some advice on this. I am troubled about a relative I love dearly who is travelling a path of self-destruction (as I judge the situation). I've been to the [fill-in-the-blank]-Anon meetings where folks in similar circumstances counsel each other to let go and let the destruction happen. And I've sat and wondered why I haven't done more already to help this relative make better choices. So, am I naive/judging/pathetic to believe that I/someone/some people should step in and strongly encourage this person to consider a different path? (Wow, I just read my last sentence and realized I sound like I'm writing a three-hankie episode of "Intervention.") So, here I am asking your personal advice for me, when it's really not about me, is it? Or is it?
@The Lone Scout: "...wondered why I haven't done more already to help this relative make better choices."
I guess it *is* about you and how you feel in terms of the possiblility of changing someone. One can only help so much. At least this is my experience.
@FriendlyFloyd: More like...
A pair of Technic 1200s + a box of records no one else has + the ability to actually mix records (which is harder than it sounds) + impeccable taste and a sense of how to keep a party moving = DJ
@Botswana Meat Commission FC: No, it's really not. I used to have a set of turntables that I played with in my spare time... it is NOT easy to mix music cleanly. You need to have impeccable timing, an informal but basic knowledge of harmonic structure, and also really thorough knowledge of the music that you are playing. A DJ doesn't just mix music... he controls the mood of a party. Different genre, but DJs like Oakenfold or Van Dyk can change the mood of the dancefloor just by shifting the key of the music. It is pretty complex stuff that takes a lot of practice.
@Botswana Meat Commission FC: More like Serato Scratch or Traktor Pro+ a celebrity Girlfriend or boyfriend + ability to be a walking Ipod=Celebrity DJ
Real DJs are the ones that get respect
@rubyruby: This explains why I couldn't find fat pics of him on google by searching for his name. Interesting. Everyone is drunk and wrong tonight I guess.
As an armchair primary care physician, I look through the hundreds of pictures of this guy on the web and the first thing that comes to mind is "If there were ever a more perfect candidate for gastric bypass surgery, I've never seen him ..."
"What you need son isn't to go to Ikea and get the small plates and glasses like the Europeans use and run around on the treadmill every once in a while, what you need is for me to do is divide your stomach into a small upper pouch and a much larger, lower 'remnant' pouch and then re-arrange the small intestine to allow both pouches to stay connected to it ... yep, that's what you need alright."
@DonLaFontaine: I've seen the pics, that doesn't mean I can find one of him larger. He reportedly lost 155 pounds after the gastric bypass. He had it one month into his relationship with Nicole Richie.
While drug overdoses, sad, and all that, I'm still unclear on who this guy is and what he did that was so remarkable to merit the attention he is getting.
@funyuns are awesome in phx: "He may have been best known for working the celebrity club scene, dating starlets including Nicole Richie and Mandy Moore, and his huge sneaker collection, owning about 1,000 pairs." [voices.washingtonpost.com]
I hope we can all put aside the petty issues and think hope the 1,000 sneakers are well taken care of by his estate. This kid was "street" with a capital "eet." 1,000 sneakers and a crack habit and an MTV deal. He’s just like any of us.
@PikaDar Brisetout: Well, I think Jeremy Blake did far more. He had work of his that was view by people more—like in Punch Drunk Love and music videos—than Mr. 1,000 sneakers. And Blake's art was accessible at least as far as viewing goes.
@OrneryBabe: Shield your eyes, dear one; it gets worse... and she is an attractive woman! (and kinda funny and playful) but she insists on looking like a cross between a burn victim and a cartoon cricket. Why??????
@alec_baldwin: I really gave up worrying about cancer when Linda McCartney died. When a happy, healthy, vegetarian, fulfilled wife and mother gazillionaire can die of breast cancer before she's 60, well, just cross your fingers (if you still have them)hope for the best and pass the trans fats, please.
@SarahHeartburn: Linda McCartney had Ashkenazi heritage (her maiden name had been changed from Edelman to Eastman, I believe) and that leads me to think her cancer was strongly influenced by genes. She also worked a lot with developing film during a time of no safety warnings, and some of those chemicals are pretty strong...but yes, I agree with you, her death completely made me feel like a slave to the whims of fate. More than usual, i mean.
@forwardmotion: Thanks. Absolutely right; we're exposed to so many possible toxins or risk factors in our lives, that, apart from living a sensible, healthy life, there's a limit to what we can do.
@SarahHeartburn: And to quote the great Edina Monsoon, circa 1990: "You can't play rock and roll on a diet of Quorn, veggie juice and Linda bloody McCartney's tofu treats."
@PandoraSpocks: Though truth be told, I'm sure there are some groups out there whose contracts insist on backstage catering based exactly on mush like that.
1) The fact that he's thin as hell doesn't mean he's at death's door. Cancer patients have lots of ups and downs in their weight due to new meds, steroids, liquid retention (or the lack of it)and may be in better health sometimes thiner than fatter. Hard to tell.
2)Gawker longtimers,forgive me for reposting this anecdote:but back in the late 80's when my mom was battling liver cancer in St. Vincents in NYC, it was actually OK for patients and family to smoke in the oncology ward lounge (and yes my mom also said, "well what the hell difference does it make now?"). It was great to sit there with her and see people with chemo drips, jaws half cut away, limbs amputated, all sucking away at their cigs. But my all time fave was the 60sih guy who had had throat cancer, a partial laryngectomy , I think, who smoked through his tracheostomy. He had to hold his nose and close his mouth to get the smoke to his lungs, but damn, he did it.
Oh, and by the way, mom lived 2 1/2 years with the liver cancer when she had originally been given a prognosis of six months. She swore it was because she kept he weight up eating a least one pint of ice cream daily (another in the list of, "so what.."). Mom actually had a great time with cancer, but that's a longer story...
The only thing that is worse than Rachel Zoe's fashionista silliness is the crazy relationship with her husband who puts up with way more of her shit than he should. Rachel Zoe in Therapy is something I might tune into to but she's way too nuts for me.
Swayze has panceas cancer, not throat/lip/lung cancer. Get your facts straight.
I lost both my mom and my maternal grandmother to pancreas cancer. Smoking exacerbates it, but it doesn't directly cause it. Grandma never smoked a day in her life, as a matter of fact, and mom was a light smoker. Pavarotti died of PanCan, but was not a smoker. However, both is parents died of the disease.
I don't believe St. Steve (Jobs) is a smoker either.
If I am ever handed the death sentence that Swayze has - and pancreas cancer is indeed a death sentence - you can bet that i would spend the last months of my life smoking, drinking, drugging and fucking.
So get out of your ivory tower, get some education, and start getting involved in really educating the public about a hideous disease which is horribly unfunded and under-researched.
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Hope all the "you have a choice" people have perfect lives. Good luck.
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ETA: Now that I think about it, I like this comment as much as any I've read in my years on Gawker. Thank you.
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I guess it *is* about you and how you feel in terms of the possiblility of changing someone. One can only help so much. At least this is my experience.
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Loss makes the world a different place.
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DJs never really strike me as someone with a talent worth making money over. Sorry if that offends anyone, but that's just my own personal feeling.
It's sad that he died of a drug overdose though, regardless of who he is.
08/31/09
A pair of Technic 1200s + a box of records no one else has + the ability to actually mix records (which is harder than it sounds) + impeccable taste and a sense of how to keep a party moving = DJ
It's not as easy as people think.
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Real DJs are the ones that get respect
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"What you need son isn't to go to Ikea and get the small plates and glasses like the Europeans use and run around on the treadmill every once in a while, what you need is for me to do is divide your stomach into a small upper pouch and a much larger, lower 'remnant' pouch and then re-arrange the small intestine to allow both pouches to stay connected to it ... yep, that's what you need alright."
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"DJ AM, né Adam Goldstein, was found dead in his Manhattan apartment earlier this evening. He was 36 years old."
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Your post contains two questions and the answers are as follows: (1) he once dated Nicole Richie and (2) see answer to question number one, supra.
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(Please don't ask why Nicole Ritchie is newsworthy)
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"He was best known for once dating Nicole Richie... having over 1000 shoes... and a former crack addict."
Must be a slow week.
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[voices.washingtonpost.com]
I hope we can all put aside the petty issues and think hope the 1,000 sneakers are well taken care of by his estate. This kid was "street" with a capital "eet." 1,000 sneakers and a crack habit and an MTV deal. He’s just like any of us.
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And, while we're at it, respect to Jeremy Blake and a memory for his greatness.
And sure, it's all about it could be you...or me for that matter.
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LEAVE. HIM. ALONE.
That is all.
03/14/09
If the paps are so hungry for a hideous visage, they should be following Lisa Rinna around.
[www.dhadm.com]
Thank you, and goodnight.
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2)Gawker longtimers,forgive me for reposting this anecdote:but back in the late 80's when my mom was battling liver cancer in St. Vincents in NYC, it was actually OK for patients and family to smoke in the oncology ward lounge (and yes my mom also said, "well what the hell difference does it make now?"). It was great to sit there with her and see people with chemo drips, jaws half cut away, limbs amputated, all sucking away at their cigs. But my all time fave was the 60sih guy who had had throat cancer, a partial laryngectomy , I think, who smoked through his tracheostomy. He had to hold his nose and close his mouth to get the smoke to his lungs, but damn, he did it.
Oh, and by the way, mom lived 2 1/2 years with the liver cancer when she had originally been given a prognosis of six months. She swore it was because she kept he weight up eating a least one pint of ice cream daily (another in the list of, "so what.."). Mom actually had a great time with cancer, but that's a longer story...
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I'm glad, in the face of adversity (terminal throat/lip/lung cancer) he can still maintain his old habits.
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Swayze has panceas cancer, not throat/lip/lung cancer. Get your facts straight.
I lost both my mom and my maternal grandmother to pancreas cancer. Smoking exacerbates it, but it doesn't directly cause it. Grandma never smoked a day in her life, as a matter of fact, and mom was a light smoker. Pavarotti died of PanCan, but was not a smoker. However, both is parents died of the disease.
I don't believe St. Steve (Jobs) is a smoker either.
If I am ever handed the death sentence that Swayze has - and pancreas cancer is indeed a death sentence - you can bet that i would spend the last months of my life smoking, drinking, drugging and fucking.
So get out of your ivory tower, get some education, and start getting involved in really educating the public about a hideous disease which is horribly unfunded and under-researched.