Letterman's kid is a victim of his father's poor self control, and his wife. Also, morals and ethics took another hit. Moral relativity in Hollywood is something that people outside can't understand. Good for them. If Letterman threatened him if he said anything, out of disgust, he might have threatened back. He said, he said. I think it reveals Dave's hypocrisy, and moreover, that he hasn't been funny for a long time. Alan Coulter has been gross for years. Dave needs to retire with his millions to his ranch and let Ferguson take the show. He's been up front with his issues, hasn't mocked children, and he's funny with little to work with. Dave takes 10 minutes of his show advertising. I mean really, Dave's a d-bag.
It's almost always impossible to prove coercion or lack thereof in these cases, and a subordinate might reasonably fear retribution even when no threat is made -- would you really want to risk your career on the chance that your superior won't take rejection personally?
This is why workplace relationships between employer and employee are just a bad idea, period. Sure, it might start out fine, but what if it ends badly and the superior can't resist taking revenge? What if the subordinate acquires undue influence? What if s/he receives a deserved promotion, but everybody knows s/he's sleeping with the boss and doesn't take it seriously?
It's just a huge mess and a bad idea and Letterman's pretty stupid for not realizing that.
I only poke my head in here occassionally these days, because Gawker is disintegrating, and it's difficult to watch that happen. This item might be the worst one yet. Just shameful, awful, and pathetic.
@lobstr: who wouldn't be? everyone made stupid decisions about who they slept with in their early twenties- it is when you are figuring out what it means to be sexual in a world where status and power don't always line up with physical beauty (I mean, theoretically, I have no experience of that).
@ms_priestypants: And this is one of the things that makes it creepy. "Oh, you're a pretty girl with no status trying to figure out where to go from here? Allow me to help you, little lady."
If people in the entertainment industry didn't have consensual sex with each other -- and even sometimes *gasp* with our employees or bosses -- none of us would have any sex at all.
Who else do we have time to meet?
Unless he's been drugging and raping interns, who cares?
If this is recent activity, it's pretty much between Letterman and his wife. And I hope she makes him miserable...
The women having sex with Letterman must have forced. Let's face it; he isn't pretty. Who here dares to say he's attractive?
And he says HE felt "menaced"....
There's a difference between sexual congress and sexual harassment. He's not a political leader who preached morality, he wasn't married, these weren't hookers using CBS budget money and to our knowledge this was all consensual, so where's the scandal or hypocrisy exactly?
@Macloserboy: The fact that the author of this article didn't understand in what context the word "creepy" was being used is a big indicator that someone is being more reactive than reasonable.
I sort of feel compelled to go and look at Andrews other posts to get a better idea of just how ridiculous he might be.
Or maybe people just like to fuck; underlings, bosses, temps, interns, men, women, strangers on the internet, people who live next door, people on TEEVEE, people who watch TEEVEE and most importantly both the pots and the kettles.
Aside from the fact that HE, himself, made jokes about it, it's natural to joke about people indiscretions. So? Yes! Make jokes and move along.
He's doesn't take the moral high ground by making tired jokes about current or past events and honestly, that's a pretty mundane zinger.
He has a late night talk show that typically uses humor jokes to make people laugh. And Gawker is not a moral watchdog, you use current events to make similar, though typically more irreverent jokes about current events.
Does anyone -- and, most importantly, your readers -- give a shit?
@Voyou_Charmant: I think ultimately people should be mad at Jay Leno for STILL making Clinton/Lewinsky jokes 10 years later. That is FAR MORE offensive than who Letterman is fucking.
I just thought it was odd that he was making "hiking the Appalacian Trail" jokes during the monologue. You'd think he would have steered clear of affair jokes 10 minutes before his big admission.
It could be that there was legitimate consent between the two parties, but that is rarely the case when a boss has sex with an employee. If he was a middle manager for XYZ Corp. he'd be facing HR right now.
Admittedly this is equally speculative, but logic would dictate that you simply do not hear about those normal interoffice relationships because nobody talks about them because they are boring. You only hear about the ones that are news worthy because there is a scandalous and legal element to the story. It's like when you hear about shark attacks and kidnappings; statistically speaking theses things are HIGHLY unlikely to happen to you or your kids but you're not going to hear about the kid who walked home from school without incident, or the beach goer who had a nice day relaxing and getting some sun.
Furthermore, assuming you are right and there is some statistic that indicates that the majority of sexual activity between boss and employee is actually harassment, it's likely more a result of the office environment. What I mean is: since interoffice relationships are typically frowned upon, ESPECIALLY when it's involving someone and their subordinate, the people who would be prone to violate that rule are not those who would engage in a meaningful relationship that may create an unstable work environment or one that would require them to be reassigned or quite their job, it's those who would engage in unacceptable activity regardless; predators.
Either way, the statement is likely to be an unfair assertion and most likely unsupported by fact.
We only know about this situation because someone tried to blackmail him and he made brought it up on national television. This falls well outside the typical chain of events that lead to people knowing about these relationships.
And, correct me if I'm wrong, but do we actually know what HR is/is not aware of?
My real problem here is that you insist on trying to paint him as a predator, even if he is, there is simply nothing supporting those claims aside from some very circumstantial nonsense that Gawker writers want to run with. The only thing you can get him on is infidelity.
This is disgusting - he's a pig, he's a hypocrite, and no amount of career success or public appreciation will change that. That's called the "Polanksi Defense" and it's horseshit.
@Unsolicited Advice: you just need to watch his 'interview' / under-the-table whackoff session with Leighton Meeeester to realize that this guy's got the hots for younger broads. If he can hardly conceal his lecherous ways while *filming a segment*, imagine what he's like in the backrooms when they're cutting tape in the late hours.
@Unsolicited Advice: No, they're not. At least, not that I can tell. They're saying it was consensual sex between two adults, and therefore is not really any of our business.
It's not advisable and probably (depending on the circumstances) a breach of business ethics, but that's for knowledgeable professionals to decide. As far as I'm concerned, he's never been a paragon of morality and never will be. Nothing's changed except now we get more self deprecating jokes.
@Voyou_Charmant: Well, most workplace allegations of sexual misconduct are predicated on the concept that a boss has coercive power over his or her employees. Workplace sex on unlevel ground invites questions as to whether or not career favors were exchanged, promised, or implied.
Since Dave is a boss on that set, it could be said that having sex with staffers is a form of rape. It's the use and abuse of a position of power to receive sexual favors. Such things are more subtle than champagne and 'ludes, but that doesn't make it okay. I don't think this is something people should laugh off.
Defending someone on the basis of him being likable or an artist is exactly what a lot of Polanski boosters have been doing. I see these crimes as similar, but that could be my kooky morals.
Sex between boss and employee can be consensual, but it's hard to disentangle the consent from the power relationship between boss and employee. Dave has to prove that he didn't imply, promise, or allude to career favors in any of the cases where he screwed his employees. He has to prove (from my perpective; the legal/NBC implications notwithstanding) that consent was achieved strictly on the basis of sexual attraction. Otherwise, I'm going to call him a scumbag and feel pretty confident about it.
@Unsolicited Advice: What about the employee? Does she also have to prove that she wasn't attempting to further/better her career prospects by sleeping with the boss?
No, having consensual sex with a member of your staff is not in any way, shape or form "rape" or any other kind of crime.
A person CANNOT base a sexual harrassment suit on "sex with the boss" alone.
Sometime people like to have sex with the boss. That's all we know about what went on. And based on that, there is no basis for a lawsuit much less a criminal complaint, though its obviously enough for you to LOSE YOUR FUCKING MIND.
@Unsolicited Advice: Man, I wish I had the power to de-star you, but I'm just a lowly second-tier commenter.
Drugging and raping an underage girl is NOT the same as having an affair with an adult staffer. You are undermining the seriousness of what Polanski did by suggesting it's the same thing.
Second, I'm sick of people calling Letterman a hypocrite over this. Unlike the many politicians he's skewered for infidelities over the years, he has never pretended to be a moral beacon. He's an entertainer.
@Unsolicited Advice: You're the one implying misconduct. You're the one assuming he used his status. You're the one making the accusation that he did something untoward. You're the one using the word rape. Not her, not the blackmailer, not the media. There are some who are speculating (like yourself) that the relationship may have been inappropriate, but not even Gawker has thrown out something as inflammatory as your previous post.
I'm yet to see anyone defend him against rape accusations (that didn't seem to exist until you made them just now) by saying he's funny, or likable.
In contrast to the Letterman story; what Polanski did is wrong on its face and in every way. He drugged and raped a 13 year old. Even if the 13 year old asked him to do it, it's STILL not ok; there is literally no way to spin it, what he did was wrong. period. The same simply can not be said for Letterman.
@Unsolicited Advice: So, you ACTUALLY think that Glenn Beck should prove he didn't rape a girl in 1990. I mean, I'm sure he would admit to having sex with a women in 1990, how can we know HOW he did it?
You're guilty until proven innocent is in direct anathema to rational thinking and the American justice system.
I, for the sake of anyone, ever, hope that you are never on a jury.
He admitted to the affair. This isn't speculation or rumor - it's fact. He fucked his employee(s).
It was an affair between an employer and an employee. Undeniably. David Letterman said "I had sex with my employees" on national television.
Real, implied, or assumed advancement in the workplace cannot be extracted from the act of providing sexual consent. Letterman should not be excused because he is a performer, what he did can is akin to rape, and we should not be sympathetic to him because he is a popular entertainer.
There's nothing left to say. Either you feel strongly about workplace sex or you don't. I think it's rape without the ketamine. Your mileage varies; good for you.
To all the "people have sex" people: that's a gross oversimplification. Sure, people have sex, and the copy machines and conference tables of Midtown Manhattan are rife with buttprints large and small.
But! Not all those people are using sexin' as a punchline, with all the moral judgmentalism that may imply. Further, banging underlings is generally a bad practice for all concerned, and is therefore wisely discouraged by most organizations.
Consenting adults, no duress or promises, hypacritical sure. If it is thus then its between him and his wife. I dont use Dave as a moral compass. At the very least he is less corrupt or hypacritical than most politicians. I trust Dave a lot more than Sarah Palin.
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This is why workplace relationships between employer and employee are just a bad idea, period. Sure, it might start out fine, but what if it ends badly and the superior can't resist taking revenge? What if the subordinate acquires undue influence? What if s/he receives a deserved promotion, but everybody knows s/he's sleeping with the boss and doesn't take it seriously?
It's just a huge mess and a bad idea and Letterman's pretty stupid for not realizing that.
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Who else do we have time to meet?
Unless he's been drugging and raping interns, who cares?
If this is recent activity, it's pretty much between Letterman and his wife. And I hope she makes him miserable...
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And he says HE felt "menaced"....
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The only real issue is he was/is the boss. But you'd think someone would have sued by now if it was otherwise. That's Viacom money, baby.
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The only real issue is he was/is the boss. You'd think someone would have sued by now if it was otherwise. That's Viacom money.
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I sort of feel compelled to go and look at Andrews other posts to get a better idea of just how ridiculous he might be.
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Aside from the fact that HE, himself, made jokes about it, it's natural to joke about people indiscretions. So? Yes! Make jokes and move along.
He's doesn't take the moral high ground by making tired jokes about current or past events and honestly, that's a pretty mundane zinger.
He has a late night talk show that typically uses humor jokes to make people laugh. And Gawker is not a moral watchdog, you use current events to make similar, though typically more irreverent jokes about current events.
Does anyone -- and, most importantly, your readers -- give a shit?
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That would imply a modicum of restraint and self-awareness. Given that he was taking advantage of his staff, what makes you think he has either?
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He admitted to having sex with staffers - plural. What more do you need to know?
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It could be that there was legitimate consent between the two parties, but that is rarely the case when a boss has sex with an employee. If he was a middle manager for XYZ Corp. he'd be facing HR right now.
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Admittedly this is equally speculative, but logic would dictate that you simply do not hear about those normal interoffice relationships because nobody talks about them because they are boring. You only hear about the ones that are news worthy because there is a scandalous and legal element to the story. It's like when you hear about shark attacks and kidnappings; statistically speaking theses things are HIGHLY unlikely to happen to you or your kids but you're not going to hear about the kid who walked home from school without incident, or the beach goer who had a nice day relaxing and getting some sun.
Furthermore, assuming you are right and there is some statistic that indicates that the majority of sexual activity between boss and employee is actually harassment, it's likely more a result of the office environment. What I mean is: since interoffice relationships are typically frowned upon, ESPECIALLY when it's involving someone and their subordinate, the people who would be prone to violate that rule are not those who would engage in a meaningful relationship that may create an unstable work environment or one that would require them to be reassigned or quite their job, it's those who would engage in unacceptable activity regardless; predators.
Either way, the statement is likely to be an unfair assertion and most likely unsupported by fact.
We only know about this situation because someone tried to blackmail him and he made brought it up on national television. This falls well outside the typical chain of events that lead to people knowing about these relationships.
And, correct me if I'm wrong, but do we actually know what HR is/is not aware of?
My real problem here is that you insist on trying to paint him as a predator, even if he is, there is simply nothing supporting those claims aside from some very circumstantial nonsense that Gawker writers want to run with. The only thing you can get him on is infidelity.
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Who doesn't?
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I'm not saying it was an analagous crime, but I am stating that Letterman supporters are mounting an analagous defense.
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It's not advisable and probably (depending on the circumstances) a breach of business ethics, but that's for knowledgeable professionals to decide. As far as I'm concerned, he's never been a paragon of morality and never will be. Nothing's changed except now we get more self deprecating jokes.
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Since Dave is a boss on that set, it could be said that having sex with staffers is a form of rape. It's the use and abuse of a position of power to receive sexual favors. Such things are more subtle than champagne and 'ludes, but that doesn't make it okay. I don't think this is something people should laugh off.
Defending someone on the basis of him being likable or an artist is exactly what a lot of Polanski boosters have been doing. I see these crimes as similar, but that could be my kooky morals.
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Sex between boss and employee can be consensual, but it's hard to disentangle the consent from the power relationship between boss and employee. Dave has to prove that he didn't imply, promise, or allude to career favors in any of the cases where he screwed his employees. He has to prove (from my perpective; the legal/NBC implications notwithstanding) that consent was achieved strictly on the basis of sexual attraction. Otherwise, I'm going to call him a scumbag and feel pretty confident about it.
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No, having consensual sex with a member of your staff is not in any way, shape or form "rape" or any other kind of crime.
A person CANNOT base a sexual harrassment suit on "sex with the boss" alone.
Sometime people like to have sex with the boss. That's all we know about what went on. And based on that, there is no basis for a lawsuit much less a criminal complaint, though its obviously enough for you to LOSE YOUR FUCKING MIND.
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Drugging and raping an underage girl is NOT the same as having an affair with an adult staffer. You are undermining the seriousness of what Polanski did by suggesting it's the same thing.
Second, I'm sick of people calling Letterman a hypocrite over this. Unlike the many politicians he's skewered for infidelities over the years, he has never pretended to be a moral beacon. He's an entertainer.
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I'm yet to see anyone defend him against rape accusations (that didn't seem to exist until you made them just now) by saying he's funny, or likable.
In contrast to the Letterman story; what Polanski did is wrong on its face and in every way. He drugged and raped a 13 year old. Even if the 13 year old asked him to do it, it's STILL not ok; there is literally no way to spin it, what he did was wrong. period. The same simply can not be said for Letterman.
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@Atilla the Bun:
@lodown:
A-FUCKING-MEN
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You're guilty until proven innocent is in direct anathema to rational thinking and the American justice system.
I, for the sake of anyone, ever, hope that you are never on a jury.
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He admitted to the affair. This isn't speculation or rumor - it's fact. He fucked his employee(s).
It was an affair between an employer and an employee. Undeniably. David Letterman said "I had sex with my employees" on national television.
Real, implied, or assumed advancement in the workplace cannot be extracted from the act of providing sexual consent. Letterman should not be excused because he is a performer, what he did can is akin to rape, and we should not be sympathetic to him because he is a popular entertainer.
There's nothing left to say. Either you feel strongly about workplace sex or you don't. I think it's rape without the ketamine. Your mileage varies; good for you.
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"what he did can is akin to rape,"
"I think it's rape without the ketamine."
There is still this left to say: You're nuts. An bat shit insane utter lunatic. I don't mean that in an insulting way, just a factual way.
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But! Not all those people are using sexin' as a punchline, with all the moral judgmentalism that may imply. Further, banging underlings is generally a bad practice for all concerned, and is therefore wisely discouraged by most organizations.
I like Dave, but he's fair game here.
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