Given the purview of this site--which, yes, can be a little crass sometimes, but you wouldn't like us if we weren't--I think this was newsworthy, and the only people who made it a Gay Issue were commenters like you, frankly.

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And doing it on the same day he's being honored by LifeWorks, a group dedicated to empowering GLBTQ youth?

That reeks, my friend.

It's not "news" unless you choose to make it news, and sell your soul to page hits.

Don't blame your choice on "the purview of this site." And this isn't "a little" crass - it's lockstep with PHilton. I don't see how Perez publishing these pics makes him "bad," but it makes you - what? An activist for equal rights abuse?

Then again, maybe I'm the fool for insisting you're better than this. Maybe you really don't see anything wrong with PHilton. And/or it's all about the page hits. Or Bill O'Reilly is paying you under the table. Or you missed your regular visit to CindyLou Who. (I hate it when that happens!)

Or maybe I just need some of whatever it is you're smoking.

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I think you guys are asking a lot and you're assuming a lot. I think I've given a lot and taken a lot. bodega, the Adam Lambert comparison is unfair and reductionist--I never said he was "all about" being gay. All I said was that I wished that he'd (and I got angry that he didn't) be brave, be above himself, and say what everyone already knew at a time when it wouldn't have seemed like crass fame-grabbing (see: cover of Rolling fucking Stone). Why is me saying that "Oh c'mon, that guy's gay" about Adam Lambert so dire and offensive, but you saying "Oh c'mon, that guy's gay!" about DLB defensible? I don't get it.

In this case, this was... "Character assassination"? Bullshit. Absolute horseshit. This was someone who filmed himself fucking and getting fucked and then it got leaked and I feel bad that it happened... But just what do you want, exactly? Do you want to assume the level playing field or bemoan its nonexistence, because those are the two options you're giving me. Are we going to keep gay sex safe and guarded and precious? Or is it just like anything else? My question to you is, what do you do? How do you normalize this? In my mind, not using the word "gay", not making a show that it was two dudes, did something tiny to progress the idea that who cares, it's just sex.

It was this simple. Oscar-winning screenwriter gets plowed on camera. I would have done the same for Diablo Cody and--to borrow an argument from the aggravatingly comparative Right Wingers--had that been the case? I wouldn't have heard a peep from either of you.

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