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    Image of squeakel squeakel
    11/06/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I don't understand why this is the second story here that portrays this woman as a victim. #oceanavebooks
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    AndPreciousLittleofThat promoted this comment squeakel was starred squeakel was unstarred
    Image of AndPreciousLittleofThat AndPreciousLittleofThat
    11/06/09

    @squeakel: I don't think this story paints her as a victim. But it does point out the obligations of business owners, regardless of whether they're selling books or reviewing other businesses.

    If Yelp truly does care about and want to promote quality businesses, they need to be willing to have discussions with those business owners when issues come up. It's just good customer service.

    To be clear, allegedly assaulting someone because they exercised their First Amendment rights is NOT okay. But a company like Yelp, which is explicitly protected under that amendment, needs to realize the businesses they review are more than just data points. #oceanavebooks
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    AndPreciousLittleofThat was starred AndPreciousLittleofThat was unstarred
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    11/06/09

    @AndPreciousLittleofThat: I disagree, Yelp is a review site. There are plenty of business out there that get good reviews so it isn't like it is impossible. Judging by the evidence this shop was not one of "quality" businesses. If the review had something that was blatantly untrue the shop owner could sue for slander. It also seems Yelp did have a few discussions with the owner but she just didn't like the answer. #oceanavebooks
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    AndPreciousLittleofThat promoted this comment hadees was starred hadees was unstarred
    Image of AndPreciousLittleofThat AndPreciousLittleofThat
    11/06/09

    @hadees: Really? Did these discussions take place outside your head? The owner was unable to reach anybody at Yelp through multiple contacts, and when she finally went to their (UNMARKED) place of business, she was turned away.

    What you said simply confirmed that Yelp is NOT a business, and they don't really give a fuck about other businesses. They delete posts and reviews without any explanation, and they don't seem to be willing to tolerate any discussion of their policies. Cowardly. #oceanavebooks
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    AndPreciousLittleofThat was starred AndPreciousLittleofThat was unstarred
    Image of hadees hadees
    11/11/09

    @AndPreciousLittleofThat: Ok first off,

    "Last Friday, Oct. 30, after an unsuccessful phone call"

    That is a singular phone call, not "multiple contacts", and it doesn't say she was unable to reach anyone. It said unsuccessful as in she wasn't able to get them removed.

    "(UNMARKED) place of business"

    How odd an Internet business, aka not brick and mortar, would have poor signage.

    Also note she got their address from the Better Business Bureau which is there to solve disputes with business. It isn't an address book to go there in person. I've made complaints to the BBB and they have gotten resolved through the BBB. There is no mention she did anything at the BBB other then get the address.

    What you said simply confirmed that Yelp is NOT a business, and they don't really give a fuck about other businesses.

    Wait you just said they aren't a business and they don't care about OTHER business in the exact sentence line. Isn't that a contradiction?

    " They delete posts and reviews without any explanation, and they don't seem to be willing to tolerate any discussion of their policies."

    How does this relate to this case? The issue here was things weren't getting deleted. I don't see your point. #oceanavebooks
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    hadees was starred hadees was unstarred
    Image of joshua.a.gardner joshua.a.gardner
    11/06/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I used to work at this restaurant in LA that had very recently opened. The owner thought it a good business move to pamper these ''Yelp Elite" with free food and booze all night. Meanwhile, they just ordered us around as if they owned the place and demanded things that weren't even on the menu -- all the while saying "We're from Yelp." Yeah, buddy. Me too. We can all type "meh" ad nauseum. What is it about Yelp that attracts such snotty people? People who have never had to work service jobs but love nothing more than to degrade those who do. Yelp is petty and useless.
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    lukeoneil47 promoted this comment Kaila Hale-Stern approved this comment joshua.a.gardner was starred joshua.a.gardner was unstarred
    Image of lukeoneil47 lukeoneil47
    11/06/09

    @joshua.a.gardner:

    Dear Yelpers,

    Remember that old saying "everyone's a critic"? You know that wasn't supposed to be a suggestion, right? Pretty sure it's okay to put the stop watch and the notebook away there Frank Bruni. The third order of free bread is on its way. Entitled fucking CSI team combing over the ceviche with infrared cameras.

    In terms of actual real world usefulness, firing off 300 word missives about the over-salted sea bass you had last night falls somewhere between rubbing one off into a hat just before you put it on and running around with scissors in your mouth the long way. Sure, probably a good way to relieve some stress, but keep that mess to yourself.

    [putthatshitonthelist.blogspot.com] #oceanavebooks
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    lukeoneil47 was starred lukeoneil47 was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/07/09

    @lukeoneil47: Where does commenting on Gawker fall on that scale, I wonder? #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of lukeoneil47 lukeoneil47
    11/07/09

    @MissNormaDesmond: Roughly equivalent to farting on the deck of an overcrowded submarine, then waiting for everyone to give you a high five for how awesome it smells. #oceanavebooks
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    lukeoneil47 was starred lukeoneil47 was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/08/09

    @lukeoneil47: Hmm. Well, whatever floats your submarine. #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of lukeoneil47 lukeoneil47
    11/08/09

    @MissNormaDesmond: farts mostly. #oceanavebooks
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    lukeoneil47 was starred lukeoneil47 was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/06/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    By the way, this is an interesting opportunity to discover whether the adage "There's no such thing as bad publicity" is true or not. My bet is she has more visitors than usual over this, if only to gawk, you should excuse the expression. #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of joopnsf joopnsf
    11/06/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    Granted, her forthcoming insanity plea will probably hold in court, but take a step back and look the whole picture: The economy sux, and has for some time, so her sales are down (regardless of the state of the book store). Yelp has most likely bombarded her with sales calls telling her how her ratings can "improve" if she throws some advertising dollars its way. And while she desperately wants good reviews on Yelp, her advertising budget is currently non-existent and some of her better reviews have been "mysteriously" disappearing.
    How can I be sure of any of this? Yelp used that MO on my business. And when I finally started hanging up on the Yelp advert sales folks, the good reviews began disappearing, and a whole slew of new, one-star insults began appearing. Complaints about such things go nowhere at Yelp. So my best revenge was outing Yelp on its own website with a 1 star review. Jeremy the owner contacted me, told me how unfair I was being, and generally whined quite a bit.
    But, I didn't show up at anyone's house with a laurel branch... or baseball bat.
    And on another note: Does anyone else find it "curious" that Sean C. aka nine_lives DESPERATELY feels the need to be interviewed by Gawker/Valleywag? Isn't his 15 minutes almost up? #oceanavebooks
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    Kaila Hale-Stern promoted this comment joopnsf was starred joopnsf was unstarred
    Image of VoxPopuli VoxPopuli
    11/06/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I'm sorry, but if this woman comes off half as nutty in person as she does in writing, I would also give her blank stares until security asked her to leave.
    She wanted to "convey the seriousness of what was about to happen to her?" Uh, security!

    Lady, it's the internet. If you get a bad review write your own positive one under a fake name, duh. Jeez, it's Yelp, not physics.

    Also, stalking is bad. Please keep that on a Post-It where you can see next time you have a "crisis." #oceanavebooks
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    VoxPopuli was starred VoxPopuli was unstarred
    Image of lostarchitect lostarchitect
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    She is pretty obviously a total nutcake. I mean, first she goes to Yelp's offices to complain about a bad review, then she tracks down the poster of the review and shows up on his door step? I'm sorry, I just don't believe one thing she's saying about how she's the victim here. #oceanavebooks
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    lostarchitect was starred lostarchitect was unstarred
    Image of lukeoneil47 lukeoneil47
    11/06/09

    @lostarchitect: That is pretty insane when you think about it, which I hadn't until just now. #oceanavebooks
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    lukeoneil47 was starred lukeoneil47 was unstarred
    Image of nine_lives nine_lives
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I should also add that after her user account was suspended she opened a business account and posted a rebuttal to my review (since removed by Yelp) saying that i constantly came in her store drunk and I was surly and rude to her - absolutely untrue. If she continues to tell these "stories" at the restraining order hearing or at her criminal trial she will be committing perjury - my wife and I both submitted statements to the police - SHE was the one arrested for trespass and battery and arrested and placed on a psychiatric hold at the jail. The truth will come out in court - Sean C (from Yelp)
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    phloxâś” promoted this comment nine_lives was starred nine_lives was unstarred
    Image of lostarchitect lostarchitect
    11/05/09

    @nine_lives: Yeah, I don't think you have much to worry about. She's making her own bed here. Sad really. She could have just posted, "yes, it's a mess, but we have everything!" or something and that would have been the end of it. #oceanavebooks
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    lostarchitect was starred lostarchitect was unstarred
    Image of limber limber
    11/06/09

    @nine_lives: Do you know how the hell she tracked you down? Because that part of the story is creepy and mysterious. #oceanavebooks
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    limber was starred limber was unstarred
    Image of funknut funknut
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    How can you not feel bad after opening your door to someone with a laurel bush in-hand, pushing them out invoking a scuffle, proceed to push them down the stairs, file a police report for battery and not feel any remorse posting defamation all over the internet? On SFWeekly he is reported to have said "I pushed her out, she pushed me back in, and I pushed her out again." #oceanavebooks
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    Pope John Peeps II promoted this comment funknut was starred funknut was unstarred
    Image of Pope John Peeps II Pope John Peeps II
    11/05/09

    @funknut: Hahaha. A thread full of people who see this lady as utterly nuts, and ONE SINGLE person who doesn't.

    So, how's the store look today? #oceanavebooks
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    Pope John Peeps II was starred Pope John Peeps II was unstarred
    Image of limber limber
    11/06/09

    @funknut: If someone from the Internetz spazzed out at me online, then tracked down my address and showed up at my front door, uninvited? Every single bet is off at that point.

    I don't care what sort of bush they're holding. That is crazy, wild-eyed stalker behaviour. #oceanavebooks
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    limber was starred limber was unstarred
    Image of funknut funknut
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    No one knows what really happened. The two stories are contradictory and the individual stories are even meta-contradictory. Sean C. mentions that he "pushed her out, she pushed him back in, and then pushed her out again" in the SFWeekly article, but then he says elsewhere that she pushed first. So which is it, Sean? #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond promoted this comment Magister approved this comment funknut was starred funknut was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/06/09

    @funknut: Stop. Just stop. He had every right to push her out, she was trying to force her way into his home. Or, more likely, you were trying to force your way into his home. Either way, nobody's buying it, because she/you had no business coming to his home in the first place, whatever her/your intentions were. Let it go, quit while you're behind, stop digging the hole. #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of funknut funknut
    11/06/09

    @MissNormaDesmond: I don't know why you're so convinced this guy's story is true. People pull stunts like this all the time at the expense of others. (ahem, Falcon Heene). I'm not saying Goodman did the right thing by showing up unannounced, no, that's downright creepy. I am not convinced that we're getting the whole story. #oceanavebooks
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    funknut was starred funknut was unstarred
    Image of limber limber
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    Nooo no no. "I attempted to convey the seriousness of what was about to happen to me"?

    There was no impending doom until this lady forced the issue. Just a bad review, then a stupid decision to make a bad situation worse by engaging online. And then she panicked and tried to circumvent the rules.

    But you have to keep this sort of thing online. I worked in a very similar environment, and if people turned up, they got stopped at our front desk as well. #oceanavebooks
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    limber was starred limber was unstarred
    Image of raincoaster raincoaster
    11/05/09

    @limber: Exactly. The seriousness of what was about to happen to her? Oh, you mean Justice? We'll get right on that, hon. #oceanavebooks
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    raincoaster was starred raincoaster was unstarred
    Image of nine_lives nine_lives
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I'm still disapointed that Ryan hasn't contact me to get my side of the story - Ryan your reporting seems to be one sided and biased. At your request I emailed you 3 times and tried to contact you through the Gawker web site. - Sean C (from Yelp)
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    lostarchitect promoted this comment nine_lives was starred nine_lives was unstarred
    Image of VoxPopuli VoxPopuli
    11/06/09

    @nine_lives: Oh no. Please don't take clues from the crazy bookstore lady.

    I think you come out looking fine. I wouldn't worry about it. She's the one who looks nuts. #oceanavebooks
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    VoxPopuli was starred VoxPopuli was unstarred
    Image of CumaeanSibyl CumaeanSibyl
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I am completely convinced by her account of the Yelp visit. #oceanavebooks
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    CumaeanSibyl was starred CumaeanSibyl was unstarred
    Image of iplaudius iplaudius
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    Yelp may suck, but this bitch is still cray-cray. #oceanavebooks
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    Image of La Mareada La Mareada
    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    It never occurs to the reviewer or the people at Yelp that they're just "poking a stick" at a possibly/probably mentally troubled person and maybe they should just stop? What purpose does it serve or principle are they upholding? Protecting SF shoppers from tiny, messy used bookstores?

    Why not just live and let live? #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond promoted this comment La Mareada was starred La Mareada was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/05/09

    @La Mareada: You're continuing to see someone who physically attacked someone else as a victim? When the horrible fate she suffered was having to read the truth about her store, which was mildly negative? I really don't understand this. This wasn't her private life; he didn't attack her personally. He made an observation about a business she was running. You seem to feel that the reviewer was responsible for knowing that she was mentally ill and handling her with kid gloves, while she was responsible for pretty much nothing.

    She could just as easily have posted in response, "It's true that my store's a bit disorganized, but that's because it's so full of treasures. If you're a used book lover who doesn't mind a bit of mess with your browsing, you'll love it here." Or even, "Thanks for the feedback. I'll get on this." The reviewer isn't responsible for her totally unhinged reaction. #oceanavebooks
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    MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of SpyMagician SpyMagician
    11/05/09

    @La Mareada: Did you just get on the Internet yesterday? People say things here... Say things with words!

    Contact me when sticks and/or stones get spit out of the tubes that connect the Interwebs and then you’d have a point. #oceanavebooks
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    SpyMagician was starred SpyMagician was unstarred
    Image of La Mareada La Mareada
    11/05/09

    @MissNormaDesmond.

    It was more that a mild review, he was just being an ass, trying to get a reaction and cool points from his buddies. "Hmm, this dumpy tiny business with no customers seems to be owned by crazy person who otherwise isn't bothering anyone. I think I'll go on the internet and trash the store!" Then when she starts emailing him, he engages and provokes her and posts the replies so she'll get really mad. He didn't stop replying and posting her replies until she showed up at his house. Re-read that first email she sent him, he should have known to stop. But you know its all for the lulz.

    Then the people at Yelp get her complaints, online and in person, and should see that the situation is escalating. No one asks if it's worth it to keep this one and only review of a tiny store? They already have sketchy policies about what they keep posted, usually based on advertising. Watch how fast Yelp will take down a poor review of that hot restaurant that advertises with them. #oceanavebooks
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    La Mareada was starred La Mareada was unstarred
    Image of MissNormaDesmond MissNormaDesmond
    11/05/09

    @La Mareada: Wow, you've totally made this guy into a villain for the high crime of calling a bookstore messy on the Internet, including apparently psychically eavesdropping on his evil thoughts.

    I can see your point about Yelp to some extent, but how you can hold everyone else but this woman responsible for her behavior I don't understand. She didn't have to freak out, she didn't have to send him abusive e-mail, and she didn't have to stalk him in real life and physically attack him when he refused to let her in his home. Nothing anyone else did made her do those things. If she's mentally ill, I'm sorry for her, but it's not the rest of the world's job to treat her with kid gloves lest she explode.

    [Edited to add] By the way, if she'd sent me those e-mails, I'd have posted them, too. If anyone got served for being a big mouth on the Internet, it was her -- she talked shit to him thinking she could be abusive in private, then found to her dismay that no, what you say in e-mail doesn't necessarily stay in e-mail. Maybe next time she'll think twice before filling someone's inbox with homophobic slurs.
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    Edited by MissNormaDesmond at 11/05/09 10:01 PM MissNormaDesmond was starred MissNormaDesmond was unstarred
    Image of nine_lives nine_lives
    11/05/09

    @La Mareada: FYI I never replied to any of her messages - she sent them all within a 2 hour period when I was away form the computer - I then blocked her and reported her to Yelp who then suspended her user account
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    Magister promoted this comment nine_lives was starred nine_lives was unstarred
    Image of La Mareada La Mareada
    11/06/09

    @nine_lives: Since you never replied or posted her responses, I apologize for my criticism. Gawker and other media should correct their posts and screen shots that show that you had.

    @MissNormaDesmond, this woman has been correctly arrested and hospitalized, I was not disputing that. Based on the previous posts by Gawker and SF media it appeared that the reviewer had online bullied a mentally damaged person until they reacted*. As Nine_Lives states in his responses that was not the case. When he read her messages, he rightly cut her off.

    *To me that is the same combination of stupidity and cruelty as the knuckleheads who threw rocks at the tiger in the SF Zoo. And yes I hold people who knowingly PROVOKE attacks from wild animals and mentally ill people partially responsible. The fact their targets do not react with the same sophistication as Gawker readers does not absolve them. #oceanavebooks
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    La Mareada was starred La Mareada was unstarred
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    11/05/09

    In reply to Yelp's Lost Chance to Prevent a Brawl
    I'm sorry but: "I attempted to convey the seriousness of what was about to happen to me."

    What was about to happen "to" her was that she was going to track some dude down and then confront him.

    She's a nutter, this guy shouldn't be afraid to state an opinion and she is definitely not the victim here. #oceanavebooks
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