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intime
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
It's all about the old rape fantasy thing - you have to relinquish control to someone else to allow yourself to enjoy sex. These are really seduction fantasies - "Oh, I didn't really want to do that dirty thing - he MADE me do it!" (And then I loved it). Of course rape really isn't about sexual enjoyment - it's about power and no rape victum enjoys being raped - that's for sure.
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Slovenly Muse
05/28/09

@intime: Absolutely. There's really no such thing as a rape fantasy (unless you fantasize about being the rapist, which... euch) because if it's a fantasy, you're creating it in your mind, you have complete control over everything that happens and everything that happens is exactly what you want. Anyone claiming that women "ask" or "want" to be raped, and rape fantasies prove it, is an asshole of the highest order. Rape/submission fantasy and actual rape have nothing to do with each other, and are not comparable in any way.
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The Lone Scout
05/28/09

@Slovenly Muse: Yes, you are correct, of course. I knew a woman who liked to discuss and, to a point, act out fantasies of very rough sex which could, at its extreme, approach physical abuse. And, she refused to adopt a safe word. However, I could plainly see that certain things turned her on and others didn't, which determined for me how I would limit my actions while doing exactly what she requested, so in the end she still exerted control over the situation.
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bytememehard
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
To me, a "resource-holding" suitor = dude with massive cock.
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Paul.B.Dodd
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
Seriously, I'm a scientist. I do research for a living and I'm extremely offended that you're referring to psychologists and sociologists as scientists unless they're working on hardcore statistical theories. Folks in the biological and physical sciences refer to them as the crazies, just kidding. No, only a little bit. So, PLEASE add the word "SOCIAL" in front of these research professionals. Thanks.
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bytememehard
05/28/09

@Paul.B.Dodd: Aren't we all social scientists?
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BadUncle
05/28/09

@Paul.B.Dodd: Wait - isn't all science just "natural philosophy?"
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Aidan_
05/28/09

@bytememehard: Er...No.

While I agree that most sociologists are not "scientists" in the same way that chemists and biologists are (or even more humanistic professionals like anthropologists), they are certainly more scientific than laymen.
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Smitros
05/28/09

@Aidan_:

You said "lay".
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bytememehard
05/28/09

@Aidan_: Er...get over your all serious self, dryass.
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Aidan_
05/28/09

@bytememehard: I'll have you know my ass is pleasantly moist and lavender-scented, thank you.
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Smitros
05/28/09

@Aidan_:

That's a falsifiable hypothesis with further definition of terms. I will leave the reproduction of results to others.
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The Lone Scout
05/28/09

@Smitros: Indeed--I want to see the pee-value, um, I mean p-value of his hypothesis testing.
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homoviper
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
And gays have no sex fantasies, just realities.
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HiredGoons
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
You know at least one of them was collecting stool samples.
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once
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
Many sexual fantasies involving dominance and surrender occur b/c someone wants to relinquish responsibility & guilt (think Bristol Palin) after all, so much baggage comes w/ sex when all we want to do is simply enjoy it(hence fantasies b/c of the repercussions of free love)It's logical that some socially dominant women fantasize in this way: in real life, they're (usually) responsible & control the urges that lead to trouble (i.e., cheating)
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BookishLookish
05/28/09

@once: Or they are just dirty, dirty whores who like a bit of spanky action.
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Smitros
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
"You are so robust to multiple specifications."

"You want stochastic, I'll give you stochastic."
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PandoraSpocks
05/28/09

@Smitros: I'll raise your stochastic model with two co-terminus variables and the ace of hearts. m
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Smitros
05/28/09

@PandoraSpocks:
This is where the anonymity of commenting is a problem.

Are you heteroskedastic?
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PandoraSpocks
05/28/09

@Smitros: I am. I also speak SAS and SPSS, but my German is only rudimentary.
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Smitros
05/28/09

@PandoraSpocks:

A couple of ground rules.

No Stata.

Must be discrete.
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Kid Twist
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
How did they know which participants in this study were the "control group?"
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Uncle_Billy_Slumming
05/28/09

@Kid Twist:

Lots of trial and error.
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Rumpelstilskin
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
If we finally get gay marriage I, too, want my honeymoon night to look like the above. I can lose the peignoir though.
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Smitros
05/28/09

In reply to 'Abuse Me,' Plead Scientists
"Tell me I have a large sample size."
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Mount_Prion
05/28/09

@Smitros: "It's so huge it hit my outlying points."
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Fry_Bread_Power
05/28/09

@Smitros: "No, you can't make me, you bastard! You can't make me! Bully! You cad! You can't make me do anything!-ALRIGHT, YOU HAVE A LARGE SAMPLE SIZE! Aaaaaand...Thank you for fulfilling my secret desire to be dominated. I hope that it was as satisfying for you as it was for me."
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Smitros
05/28/09

@Fry_Bread_Power:

"As these issues are beyond the scope of this paper, further research is required. Future outcomes, though, may be amenable to policy interventions."
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PandoraSpocks
05/28/09

@Smitros: He may have a large sample size, but he used so few controls that the methodology is flawed and the results highly questionable.
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Smitros
05/28/09

@PandoraSpocks:

I won't even ask about the confidence interval.

Scenarios like this come up on Maury Povich.
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SeaBassTian
02/10/09

In reply to Facebook Friends: 'A Monumental Decision'
"I just don't want their snarky comments." Now rather than incur the lame jokes from his hometown friends, he has awakened the beast at Gawker and the knives are out. I would say Mr. Tennis made a huge error in judgment.
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Amarain824
02/09/09

In reply to Facebook Friends: 'A Monumental Decision'
just leave them pending...then they can't request you again :) easy peasy
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skahammer
02/10/09

@Amarain824: This is what I do. I do wonder sometimes if I'm actually being a dick, but it passes quickly.
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Mafalda para Presidente
02/09/09

In reply to Facebook Friends: 'A Monumental Decision'
OH. MY. GOD. The insecurity and the self-importance is leaking through my screen and ruining my keyboard.
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shag_carpet_bomb
02/09/09

In reply to Facebook Friends: 'A Monumental Decision'
Haha, what do you do when that annoying person is YOUR BROTHER?? Don't people realize that to the 'friend' what they see of your profile, is what they get? They don't know that everyone else can see your pictures, and where you work and how much pie you ate last weekend. Also, when all else fails, blame technology. I totally missed that request (that you sent 6 times???) oopsie. I've got a HS friend who has sent me 6 friend requests since december. Dude, seriously, why??? I assume if people don't want to accept me as a friend, the email got lost or I did something to them when I was drunk. oh well. It's facebook, it's not LIFE.
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maevemealone
02/09/09

In reply to Facebook Friends: 'A Monumental Decision'
Apparently not listing my high school on my profile has kept the home towners from finding me. My friend just joined last week and has been bombarded with friend requests from all of our classmates bc she did list our high school. Of course, one of our mutual best friends who bizarrely dropped out of all her friends lives, came out of the woodwork and wanted to catch up. It's one of the only requests I've denied bc she was just kind of a jerk and even if she's nice now, eh, I don't want to know about her.
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optical_allusion
02/09/09

@maevemealone: I had an old friend come out of the woodwork on facebook recently, too. Turns out she moved across the country, dyed her hair blonde, and lost a ton of weight. She was really awful to some of my friends back in the day, and I noticed from my news feed that she was mostly friending the popular kids from high school, not the people who had actually been her friends.

So, I posted a handful of pictures from high school, when she was fat and hideous, and tagged her in them. She untagged herself within hours, but it seems other people were on my wavelength, because everyone kept tagging her again. Petty, but fun!
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Mafalda para Presidente
02/09/09

@optical_allusion: Heh, that sounds like a fun way to procrastinate, now that Gawker writers are posting less frequently.
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maevemealone
02/09/09

@optical_allusion: Oh my goodness, I have tons of pictures of this girl pre-boob reduction! She would be duly mortified if I were to post them!
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