Gays and porn: always on the cutting edge of technology. Seriously. The first thing off Gutenberg's press might've been a bible, but porn wasn't far behind.
Yeah, it's all hilarious until you find out your boyfriend has a profile on one of these things.
Seriously, is there any gay out there who doesn't know of a relationship ruined by these sites? Back in the day people had to work a little harder to cheat on one another.
@Solomon Grundy: I tried OKCupid but it seems like more of a lesbian thing. Though I did have one guy messaging me out of the blue to ask if he could lick my inner thighs. Bracing, to say the least.
@eleusiswalks: Really? My inbox is clogged with OKC messages from semi-eligible young bachelors. I think the trick is that you have to fill out a few quizzes and stuff for the automated system to be able to match you. Who knew that 30 of my up-down opinions on inane questions like "Do you support the constitutional right to burn the flag" is all I needed to find the love of my life.
@Solomon Grundy: Yeah they're compatibility percentages don't actually tell you much about how you'll actually get on with someone. I've met a couple people from OKC who were supposedly great matches for me! Turned out.. not so much.
Or a person can look at himself in the mirror, realize what he sees, and act in a way that befits a human being.
Sex can be more than online shopping for a fix. Give yourself better reasons to get that close to another person; give another person better reasons to get that close to you.
@Hydroceph: I tried to link to the post entitled "Gawker Comments Are Made of Stars" on the words "IM-like conversation," but I discovered that links disappear when you edit comments. Beware! (What does Captain Comedown mean?!)
Edit: Ah ha, as in Debbie Downer. Mary, you can respect yourself and still be nasty!
You failed to mention that Adam4Adam is for black and Latino guys and their admirers, primarily. Er, or so I read.
Also, be careful, because every poz guy I know uses Adam4Adam and Manhunt for non-status-disclosed hookups. If guys on there don't disclose their HIV status (and even if they say it's negative), you should assume it's positive. Just be aware of that, and play safe.
We recently ran a story about the spike in HIV transmission rates in guys under 27 who hook up with other guys in NYC, and the rates are shockingly high. It's almost the 70s all over again here. Among young Af-Am guys in New York, some experts claim it to be around 40%. I think misusing these kinds of sites has a lot to do with that.
But anyhow, welcome, new Gawker Gay. Color me intrigued.
@Solomon Grundy: Also, I had never been to guyswithiphones before, but this made me squeal. The worst fake-punk-gayhawk I have seen since the last season of Top Chef:
As a straight man, I've long pitied the seemingly monastic lifestyle of gay men desperate to have sex, but completely without options. I thought the internet might finally solve their problems. I guess I was wrong. March on, you blue-balled soldiers.
@scallywag: All that talking! I'm tired just thinking about it. Now, if you could wear your phone number on a t-shirt or something and then I could text you from across the room, that would be good.
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Seriously, is there any gay out there who doesn't know of a relationship ruined by these sites? Back in the day people had to work a little harder to cheat on one another.
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"Guess what i found online, today, honey? You, you good for nothing tramp. Pass the mineral water, please."
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David Bromstad (of HGTV)
Edmund White
Now _there's_ a celebrity couple I could rally around.
Both were actually quite nice (although I got pics of Bromstad)
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Seriously, I'm waiting.
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I'm waiting with bated breath.
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This is a pretty great run-down, though. You did forget gay.com, the most tedious place on earth.
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::looks around furtively wondering if anybody noticed my lying about alpha gay status::
::changes photo on Adam4Adam::
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Sex can be more than online shopping for a fix. Give yourself better reasons to get that close to another person; give another person better reasons to get that close to you.
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::Drew Barrymore giggle::
::Jodie Foster butch-face::
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Edit: Ah ha, as in Debbie Downer. Mary, you can respect yourself and still be nasty!
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Also, be careful, because every poz guy I know uses Adam4Adam and Manhunt for non-status-disclosed hookups. If guys on there don't disclose their HIV status (and even if they say it's negative), you should assume it's positive. Just be aware of that, and play safe.
We recently ran a story about the spike in HIV transmission rates in guys under 27 who hook up with other guys in NYC, and the rates are shockingly high. It's almost the 70s all over again here. Among young Af-Am guys in New York, some experts claim it to be around 40%. I think misusing these kinds of sites has a lot to do with that.
But anyhow, welcome, new Gawker Gay. Color me intrigued.
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http://guyswithiphones.com/images/2009/04/LcTBeLt6Fmgkop9pvnNKux0go1_500.jpg
(Hm how do you add images in comments?)
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When I got the email I through my head back, laughed, and typed in, "oh you do go on, Adam4Adam Admin."
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