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12/10/08
full disclosure: gay former DINK, now have one kid through adoption, please don't hate me.
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The photos.
Particularly the one where Kuczynski was posed with her POC baby nurse on the palatial grounds of her home, like something out of "Gone With the Wind." I couldn't tell whether that photo was staged without Kuczynski or the photographer realizing what it looked like or with them thinking that it was edgy and ironic...either way, it made me hate them.
Combine it with the "barefoot and pregnant" shot of the surrogate and I about vomited.
I'm not against surrogacy. But Kuczynski's drivel-filled, myopic, privilege blinded writing about it makes me question whether my stance on surrogacy is right or wrong.
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OK so the letters are scrambled. They're there.
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Heliskiing in Alaska ... IN THE RECESSION!
Shopping at Barneys ... IN THE RECESSION!
See? The formula is airtight!
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Your precious concern for the rented uterus is beside the point and, frankly, annoying.
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Alex Kuczinski (or whatever it is) set herself up for attack with one of the most insipid self serving shallow articles ever but Frank isn't in a position to judge her.
12/09/08
12/09/08
i was making my statement based on the nature of his article because he reserved a SINGLE line to her detailed description of everything she went through to have a baby.
she clearly went to considerable effort to try to have a baby herself and described those efforts in some detail
but frank demeaned her effort with a single line referencing it
i think another woman who has either tried to give birth or has given birth would be more compassionate
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but frank gave very short shrift to the psychological burden of a woman who goes through herculean efforts to have a baby and can't.
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Not getting exactly what you want in life, including the possibility of not getting to birth a child, is a reality that ALL of us contend with. That we treat it as such a grievous catastrophe in the life of a woman only reinforces the expectation that we're supposed to feel somehow less womanly and alive if we don't or can't do it.
What opens Ms. K up for criticism is not that she's not having her own baby, but that she spends so much of her 8,000 words talking about HER experience and the opportunity that HER money afforded her without doing much more than momentarily pausing to mention the woman that is giving her the opportunity. What does the experience mean in her life, how does it impact her, what kind of woman is she? What does she think about any of this?
The juxtaposition of the experiences would have been much more interesting (and much less obviously plutocratic) than merely hearing about the enormous amount of time, effort, and money the author had the luxury of spending trying to have her own baby (because the average woman wouldn't even get most of those opportunities) and then the leisure activities her wealth afforded her while someone else was doing all the work. She's not aware that SHE is not the interesting character in this whole scenario - the surrogate is.
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infertility is no doubt a heavy burden
surrogacy is a viable option for the rich right now; maybe some day it will be an option for all infertile women, when it's, you know, covered under universal healthcare
12/10/08
Gender beats race?
Since when?
If we're playing Oppression Olympics, I think race pretty clearly trumps gender. I haven't been pulled over for "driving while white chick" lately, have you?
12/10/08
Her pain is terrible, and infertility is never fun. But what rich people knew in the last century is still true: don't rub your wealth in other people's faces.
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